Being Your Own Superstar – The Book

Does the Size of Your Love Bucket Match the

Size of Your Dreams?

In my early twenties, I moved to Los Angeles to work in the Hollywood entertainment industry. I would hear the term “It Factor” often from high-level executives, casting directors, and agents when referring to stars, athletes, and leaders who were famous in the public eye.

It never once dawned on me that I had an “It Factor”. After all, wasn’t that reserved for a select few? I used to think how “lucky” someone like Oprah Winfrey must be to be born into the anointed group that would rise to greatness.

In my thirties, I had an aha moment. I connected the dots when I witnessed new “talent” rise quickly in the toughest industry in the world because they were born into an influential Hollywood the last name. That influence and wealth was a large contributor to an individual’s ability to be anointed with the “It Factor” in the marketplace, in Hollywood, and globally in every field.

In my forties, I sat with my belief systems from my twenties and thirties and had yet another aha moment. Yes, being born into an influential last name and wealth is relevant; however, Oprah wasn’t born into an influential last name, nor into wealth, but she is a household name. I no longer believed that there were a select few that were born with an “It Factor”. Instead, I realized that I was born with an “It Factor” and so was everyone else. It is just that some people like Oprah got back to owning their birthright of standing in their spotlight, sharing their gifts and talents, and allowing their “It Factor” to shine bright sooner than others. It got me thinking, “What is Oprah’s secret sauce?”

.As I entered my fifties, I read a quote from Oprah Winfrey, “If you can’t handle being talked about, you are not ready for success.” I was appreciative of Oprah reminding us that you have to be okay with criticism and rejection if you are going to be successful. I remembered while working on the set of Independence Day with superstar Will Smith, how impressed I was at how at ease he had on set. I was even more impressed by how at ease he was on the red carpet of the ID4 premieres with countless screaming and adoring fans constantly showering him with adoration and love. I remember thinking how overwhelming it must be to have endless love and adoration be thrown at you everywhere you go. Then I had the ultimate aha moment. I realized that the concept of why we play small isn’t solely because of the fear of criticism or rejection. It is because we are not taught how to take in massive amounts of LOVE.

I believe that superstars like Oprah Winfrey and Will Smith have discovered the secret sauce of growing their love bucket. That the size of their love bucket is in direct alignment with their capacity to allow their dreams and desires to come to fruition. Their love bucket capacity is in direct alignment with how large of a spotlight they can stand in and how much love they are able to allow in and receive from the marketplace. Their love bucket is in direct alignment with shining a bright spotlight on their “It Factor”, which the world views as “fame”.

It got me thinking about how big Oprah’s “Love Bucket” has to be for her to be able to handle being recognized everywhere she goes and to encounter countless raving fans shouting out her name, asking to get her autograph, and to take a picture with her. How big does her love bucket have to be to allow a net worth of 2.8 Billion and to receive countless awards which include an Oscar, Emmy, Lifetime Achievement Award, and more?

I took a hard look at my “Love Bucket” and it became clear that my love bucket capacity was very low. I decided to test my theory and I set an intention for the past two years. I would pull out every inner game tool that I had and apply them to growing my love bucket.

The last two years of my life changed in the most extraordinary ways. My dream of falling in love, getting engaged, and married came to fruition. My dream of creating a successful and sustainable business as a brand director, coach, author, and international speaker came to fruition. My dream of writing a second book came to fruition. My desire to step out of the shadows and stand in my Spotlight and share my gifts and talents with the world came to fruition. My desire to be more at ease came to fruition.

If you are struggling with making your dreams and desires come to life, I encourage you to recognize that it is your birthright to embrace your “It Factor”. It is not for a select few. I encourage you to take a close look at how much love you are able to take in. How can you embrace your “Love Bucket” and grow your LOVE capacity every day? Your dreams and desires are waiting patiently. #lovebucket #byosuperstar #lovebucketdailyhabits #birthright  Be Your Own Superstar Book drops 4/2022!

In her second book Being Your Own Superstar that launches 4/2022, Joie shares her signature
The Love Bucket Daily Habits step-by-step system along with techniques, tools, and tips that will enable you to take your love bucket to superstar status, push through the glass ceiling, replace overwhelm with eagerness and focus and become a superstar in your life. She designed the book to double as a play guide for you to implement her signature The Love Bucket Daily Habits to manifest their dreams quickly and easily.

You want to reach more people and you applied the techniques from The Red Carpet Guide to Visibility and Influence. You got results but now want even more. How do you do that? Stay tuned for Joie’s follow-up book Being Your Own Superstar launching 4/2022. #lovebucket #byosuperstar #lovebucketdailyhabits #birthright

This blog was prepared or accomplished by Joie Gharrity in her personal capacity. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in the text belong solely to the author, and not to the organization, or group or individual.

Learn more about Joie’s first book The Red Carpet Guide to Visibility and Influence, She shares tangible Visibility and Influence strategies, techniques, and tips. She designed the book to double as a guide for entrepreneurs to implement her branding and marketing techniques easily and quickly as well as create a business that soars high in the marketplace. 

Melodieann Whiteley
5.0 out of 5 stars Struggling to Get Noticed?

I absolutely love this book! In the ever-increasing onslaught from social media, television, and what-have-you, it can be difficult to get your brand to stand out from the rest. Joie’s experience in Hollywood taught her how to get herself and her clients noticed. And she shares all of that in her book. The tasks are actionable and effective. The information is invaluable. If you want to shine a spotlight on your business, your non-profit, or yourself, you need this book.

M. Mathews — 5 out of 5 stars — Fantastic tools for advancing your business and self!

Highly recommend this book. Clear, Concise, and Creative. Filled with valuable information and exercises to help become the BEST in any business! Personally, I am so excited to continue this journey, knowing that I now have the tools in my toolbox to “Step out of the Shadow and into the Spotlight”!